Alateen is for young people whose lives have
been affected by someone else’s drinking. The following
20 questions are to help you decide whether Alateen is for
you. Find out more
- Do you have a parent, close friend or
relative whose drinking upsets you?
- Do you cover up your real feelings by
pretending that you don’t care?
- Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because
- Do you tell lies to cover up for someone
else’s drinking or what’s happening in your
- Do you stay out of the house as much as
possible because you hate it there?
- Are you afraid to upset someone or fear it
will set off a drinking bout?
- Do you feel nobody really loves you or cares
what happens to you?
- Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your
- Do you think the drinker’s behavior is
caused by you, other members of your family, friends, or
rotten breaks in life?
- Do you make threats such as, “If you
don’t stop drinking, fighting, I’ll run
- Do you make promises about behavior, such as,
“I’ll get better school marks, go to church or
keep my room clean” in exchange for a promise that the
fighting and drinking will stop?
- Do you feel that if your mom or dad loved
you, he or she would stop drinking?
- Do you ever threaten or actually hurt
yourself to scare your parents into saying “I’m
sorry,” or “I love you?”
- Do you believe no one could possibly
understand how you feel?
- Do you have money problems because of someone
- Are mealtimes frequently delayed because of
- Have you considered calling the police
because of the drinker’s abusive behavior?
- Have you refused dates out of fear or
- Do you think your problems would be solved if
the drinking stopped?
- Do you ever treat people (teachers,
schoolmates, teammates, etc.) unjustly because you are angry
at someone else for drinking too much?
If you answered
yes to some of these questions, Alateen may be able to help
you. See the schedule
of Alateen meetings in the Twin Cities metropolitan
Reprinted with permission,
Al‑Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach,
help you decide if you need Al‑Anon
Updated 1 April 2016