Questions and Answers

Every Al‑Anon or Alateen members was a newcomer, attending a meeting for the first time. We understand how it feels. These are some of the questions we asked about the group and what happens at our meetings.

Who are the members and why are they here?

Members are all kinds of people from all walks of life: wives, husbands, lovers, sisters, brothers, children and parents of alcoholics. No matter what our relationship has been with a problem drinker, we share a common bond: we feel our lives have been deeply affected by another person’s drinking. We meet together to share our experience, strength and hope.

How will it help me?

You will probably hear about a situation much like your own. If you don’t find someone with the same set of circumstances, you may still be able to identify with the way many of us feel about the effects of alcoholism in our lives. We are all individuals striving to become the best people we can, each in our own way. That way is not the same for each of us, but there is help for everyone whose problem is alcoholism in others.

Will anyone say I’ve been there?

Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our program. It provides a safe place for members to share. We use first names and last initials. We do not talk about the people we see, or repeat what we hear at meetings. We guard the anonymity of all Al‑Anon / Alateen and AA members.

Is this a religious fellowship?

Al‑Anon is a spiritual fellowship, not a religious one. Members of any faith, or none at all, are welcome and we make it a point to avoid discussion of specific beliefs. The Al‑Anon program is based on the spiritual idea that we can depend on a “Power greater than ourselves” for help in solving our problems and achieving peace of mind. We are free to define that power in our own terms and in our own way.

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Updated 2 January 2024