Answer these questions to see if Alateen could be right for you…

Is someone’s drinking getting to you?

Alateen is for young people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. The following 20 questions are to help you decide whether Alateen is for you. Find out more about alcoholism.

1. Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?
2. Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending that you don’t care?
3. Do you feel neglected, uncared for, or unloved?
4. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking or what’s happening in your home?
5. Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there?
6. Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?
7. Has someone’s drinking upset you?
8. Are mealtimes, birthdays, and holidays spoiled because of drinking or others’ reactions to the drinking?
9. Are you afraid to speak up for fear the drinking or fighting will start again?
10. Do you think the drinker’s behavior is caused by you, other members of your family, friends, or rotten breaks in life?
11. Do you make threats such as, “If you don’t stop drinking and fighting, I’ll run away?”
12. Do you make promises about behavior, such as I’ll “get better grades,” or “keep my room clean,” or “do anything you want,” in exchange for a promise that the drinking and fighting will stop?
13. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, she or he would stop drinking?
14. Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare the drinker into saying, “I’m sorry,” or “I love you”?
15. Do you or your family have money problems because of someone else’s drinking
16. Are you scared to ride in a car with the drinker?
17. Have you considered calling the police because of abusive behavior?
18. Do you avoid dating or having close friends because they may find out about the drinking or fighting?
19. Do you think your problems would be solved if the drinking stopped?
20. Do you ever treat teachers, friends, teammates, etc. unfairly because you are angry about someone else’s drinking?

If you answered yes to some of these questions, Alateen may be able to help you. See the schedule of Alateen meetings in the Twin Cities metropolitan area. 

Download a printable copy of these questions (S-20, PDF).

Reprinted with permission, Al‑Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.

Questions to help you decide if you need Al‑Anon or Al‑Anon Adult Children

Updated 28 August 2024